I’m going to get a little bit contraversial today. I’m not going to go all “Ashley Madison,” but I do think it’s a topic that deserves some attention. My question for the readers is “Is it okay to have adult secret crushes when you are married?”
What I mean by “adult secret crush” is that high school-like feeling that you get when you see a certain person. It has nothing to do with truly knowing them and wanting to date them or sleep with them or whatever. It’s not having too much to drink and making a mistake. It isn’t sexual or even spiritual. It’s more that feeling you get that makes you blush a little bit when you think about the person or see them. Maybe you just think they have a cute personality or are attractive in some way.
I would argue that adult secret crushes are totally normal and nothing to worry about. They don’t threaten a marriage or a relationship because they aren’t based on substance. If they DO threaten a marriage or relationship, it speaks more about that marriage or relationship than the validity of the secret crush.
So what is your take? Leave me a comment, and it is totally okay to be judgmental. It’s an interesting topic that I am curious to see some discussion about. Or blog about it yourself and leave me a trackback so I can see your side.
