The Active Family

It can be the most heart wrenching, trying time of your life. For young people especially who may not have dealt with a death before, losing a friend or close family member can be more than devastating. Sometimes its hard to understand that life will move on, and the pain will eventually fade.

I was talking with my best friend this weekend, and we were remenising about a mutual friend of ours that was killed this winter in a car accident.  Neither of us have reached the point where we can talk about Nikki without getting choked up, but we noticed that the tears turned to laughter much faster than before. Perhaps we are finding that zone where you begin to move on, remembering your friend fondly, and the great memories, and not focus on the circumstances around the death, and that they aren’t there any more.

My friend also has been dealing with the devastating loss of another very good friend. Her best friend from high school was killed in a horrific motorcycle accident. She still struggles with the loss, upset that her friend died in such a violent way, alone. The family was a mess, there was no one to place blame, there were no witnesses. The police say he crawled to the side of the road and sat against a telephone pole, which was ultimately where he passed. In cases like him, and our friend Nikki, it can be harder for those left behind to cope. I still have her last text message to me on my phone. She still has a voicemail saved.

There were no goodbyes, plans previously made were kept, but turned into memorials. Girls Night was a strange one, we were celebrating Nikki’s life, and saying goodbye at the same time. His birthday rolls around, and there is no need to plan a party. That loss alone is tough to watch. Day by day it gets a little better. The memories flood back at random times, sometimes we even forget they are gone. The effort to remember and honor Nikki by petitioning the town to place street lights at the intersection she died at gives us all a measure of peace.  So day by day, we move on, someday the sorrow will be replaced with fondness.

Remember if you lose a loved one, honor their memories. Do what you can to protect the families involved. Help those who are affected. I don’t know of anyone in my area that specifically deals with these cases, save the “ambulance chasers” from tv, but those in southern california might benefit from the information found with this Oakland motorcycle accident lawyer. There is wonderful motorcycle safety tips on the site, as well as steps that can help save a life should you come across a motorcycle accident. As always, help your fellow man, don’t pass by and leave it to someone else.